This Way of Thinking Changed My Life (Part One)

“When things go wrong, don’t go with them.”- Elvis Presley

Michael Jordan, Babe Ruth, Emily Dickenson, Abraham Lincoln, Jerry Seinfeld and almost every other person you know has failed before they got to where they are today. Every person I have ever met, worked with, or talked to has failed in one way (or 100, or more) before they reached their goals. I don’t like the word failure. I think it is one of the most misunderstood and improperly used words to exist. It’s right up there with the word “hard” which I think should be changed to “doable”. But getting back to the word failure, I’ll let Thomas Edison explain one reason why we interpret and utilize this term so poorly before we move on.

•  “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”- Thomas A. Edison
• “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”-Thomas A. Edison

Let’s Relate This to Fitness

For example, what if you go on a fat loss plan for a couple months and you don’t lose any weight or lower your body fat percentage at all. Let’s say you try ten different programs and still nothing. You’re left feeling upset, disappointed, and as if there is no hope. Have you failed or can you learn from this particular “fault”? If you keep “failing” at anything, ask yourself these three questions very carefully.

1. When, where, and why did I fail?
2. At what point in my life did I fail?
3. How will I prevent this “failure” from happening again?

But please don’t kid yourself.

If you are serious about getting results, then answer the questions above in the way you deserve too. Truthfully. Why? Because they will not work if you are lying to yourself. If you are not seeing results because you are not complying or putting in full effort to a program just say so. At least you know the real reason why you failed and you can still learn from that.

I absolutely love that quote. If you thin failures are bad, it’s going to make believing in yourself near impossible when you get knocked down. Mistakes happen, and as you already know they will keep happening for the rest of your life. Fail the right way,  which is by going after what you want.

I believe you should indeed let failures affect you, but not destroy you. Embrace them, love them, and be grateful for their limitations. Failures are temporary and can only go so far and last so long. They can’t resist success. Think about it…

Imagine what would happen if health care providers quit when a treatment wasn’t working. The possibility of finding a solution is impossible. In the same sense, if you quit when going after a goal, the possibility of “winning” is non existent. Do you agree that then you will never know what you could have achieved if you don’t at least try? This is what sets the average and the successful apart.

Failures and how you deal with them are the foundation to the person that you become.

You see, if you don’t give what you want to a shot, you never know if you could have stricken gold. Would you rather win, lose, or say you didn’t try weeks, months, years, or decades from now? I don’t now about you but I don’t want to have any regrets at all in the one life I am given. We usually hear that we don’t try things because we are afraid of failing.

I also think you should ask yourself if you are afraid of the APPEARANCE of failing. If you were in your room alone and nobody could see you fail at the task you set out for, would you still be scared to go after your dreams and goals?

Don’t think like the people that believe you can’t start a business during the recession. The people that think motivated people can’t turn phenomenal. The people that say things are impossible because they aren’t you. They aren’t capable of what you are. Remember, being born means that you were made to grow and to live life to the fullest. Don’t let failures kill you. Don’t let failures destroy your dreams. When something bad happens look at the good first, then look at the bad and decide how you’re going to fix it. Deep down you know there is always more out there. Do me a favor and remind yourself of this everyday.

P.S. If you were to die tomorrow, would you have achieved everything you wanted?

Don’t be a pessimist. We all recognize the same situation, bad or good, effects different people different ways. Our lives are most effected by the way we think things are, not the way they are. As you think, so you become. From now on what I want you to take away from this post is that you didn’t “fail”.

Stop living cautiously and safely and instead live wisely and venturesome. Only you can control your own thoughts, and if you decide not too someone else will. We don’t want to live a scared, protective, boring life, we want to live an exciting intrepid one.